Ok ok,
We are connected, each to the other, each to the earth, each to the universe. Our bodies and minds work by the same rules that guide the stars. Our very atoms are star-stuff.
Are the connections internal to us or external? Does the question even have meaning? In the connections is what I might term fate and perhaps what another might term coincidence. Where does one stop and the other begin? When the separation ceases to matter, there ceases to need a separate identity. Fate and coincidence lie separated by a very thin red line. In fact, the very thought of discerning the difference might be a fated co-incidence.
To be controlled by an irrepressible force is fate. To think that you are being controlled by an irrepressible force is purely coincidental. The term is irrelevant. Need we hang on a specific, isolating?
Cheers.
ps: Fate is what you are willing to forge.